Right now there is just so little contact at all. It could be a week before I hear anything form her. That [censored] but it is hopefully giving her plenty of time to think. My expectations aren't too bad because I don't expect her to call. I don't have to worry about waiting by the phone because I know she isn't going to.
I know the feeling very well. There was a time when W did not call for almost ten days. I almost reached a breaking point. I was going nuts. The longest we have gone without contact has been 14 days and that was in the beginning. But through our interactions I learned a lot and conducted a self experiment.
W called we talked about R/M call would last 1 sometimes 2 hours I would say all the things I am learning and that I think we can work it out. She would make her case and we would hang up. Result…..no contact for a week.
W called…….I would keep it short and sweet. Nice convo about nothing really just to see how she was doing and how I was doing. Result…..Next day or max two days W called back.
I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even bring up the R/M anymore although I did slip last night when she brought it up. The results are simple. So far this week…..contact every day. If you go back and see my thread from the beginning (I know its long I never really thought it would ever get that big) you will see a natural progression of communication. You will see my failed attempts and my small victories. I works sometimes I slip and I beat myself up because I tell myself “You idiot. DO WHAT WORKS”
When I don’t bring up the R/M after a few interactions she brings it up. If you recall the other day I had a nearly 6 hour convo with her. I was great. Then no contact for 3 days. Monday she has called, Last night she called and she will call tonight at some point to tell me about Thursday. That is a new record for me. Follow the plan and don’t be scared to just talk little stuff, which was my biggest fear. “The more I agree with her the more convinced she becomes that she made the right decision” Not how it works at all. The more I validate the more she calls. Maybe I should post this on my own thread to remind myself to stop being a jack wagon.
