A Lovestruck Romeo Singing the Streets in Serenade

[zengypsy]

I would suggest re-reading the MLC Chapter in DR. Keep in my mind that MLC'ers are in an experimental phase and that may include experimenting in a new relationship. Behind the facade of happiness, remember they are really very unhappy people for some reason. Thus the blame on others. They will wake up one day and have to be accountable for their part.

Having said all that, I would suggsst that you re-read Michele's Chapter on Infidelity as well.

Perhaps everyone does have their breaking point. And 2S, I'm not 100% convinced yet that you would choose #2.

Keep up YOUR work Denver; look how far you've come!

[grr]

denver, i just wanted to check in and hope you are having a good day

[Denver_2010]

Thanks grr and Gypsy. I'm just okay today. I'm realizing that I have been letting myself get too excited about the progress that I've made. I still think that it has been good, but just not as good as I had worked it up to be in my head. Expectations that things would continue to move quickly with a positive momentum. I think that I realize now that I still have a long way to go and that it is going to be slow.

BITS
Denver

[2stepboogie]

That is the reason they call it baby steps In a lot of ways we serve as our own worse enemy. We say we want to give our S room and space but what we really want is for them to reconize our changes and come back home so we can put our family together. When we don't get it we let ourselves down.

gypsy,

Maybe you're right but I am almost completely comvinced that would be my end point.

[Denver_2010]

Denver,

How did it go last time you jumped to conclusions?

I overreacted... It's just frustrating not knowing what my W is thinking and doing?

[Denver_2010]

I love the way you make your point FOBD! LOL... I had to read that a few times for the full effect.

Just going to keep getting that squirrel to come closer and closer... hopefully.

Thanks man.

BITS
Denver

[grr]

time is your friend right now
what's the rush? as long as you see progress, nothing could be better than that
you are deciding that this is what you want for the rest of your life, so what do a few months or even a year matter
glad your day is ok

[dixiegal]

Just caught up on the thread! Denver don't beat up on yourself (me calling the kettle huh?) Anyways, your making progress...that's ALL we really want. Right????

FOBD and 2STEP you guys are both spot on! Denver, your pros/cons list made me cry through the whole thing!!! You are the better MAN my friend!!!

I'm proud of you and how your moving forward through such a rotten and tough chapter of your life! But, your doing it everyday...because you love your W and family...That's why you are the better MAN!

I know the not knowing where they live kills you. I don't know where my H lives now. I heard through a cousin... He was living w/a friend. But, friend got married so he moved out yesterday? That he is suppose to stay w/Grandma for a few weeks then moving in w/someone????

That makes me crazy too, I'm in the boat with you on that one! But, she is still reaching out to you in her own way....Keep going Denver...

Prayers Always!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Without evidence to point to something...nefarious:

It's just frustrating not knowing what my W is thinking and doing?

Why assume the worst?


You're picking the worst of the few assumptions you allow yourself to make.

In some way it's paranoid defense. If you assume the worst you can't be as hurt as if you assumed the best and are wrong.

But by assuming the worst, its affecting you, you're already prickly and standoffish when you do interact with her.

With no evidence, you're sabotaging yourself and your efforts.

You.

FOBD's post is awesome. Awesome enough to print up to re-read when your feeling down.

[2stepboogie]

FOBD,

Good to know I am not the only who has conversations with myself. I even answer myself like you do. We should go on a double date:)