Welcome to the club everyone loves but no one wants to be a part of.
You've done a pretty good job of identifying the things you W does not like. Well done. Now what?
Now you begin the journey of correcting those things.
DO NOT: Ask your W to go to the website Ask her to read the book Cry and seem weak in front of her (this will only reinforce her opinion of you according to your own self analysis) Panic Be ashamed Listen to people, family or otherwise, that tell you how you should and should not feel.
Do:
Visit often and post often we help each other sometimes I am weak......ok often I am weak but my new found friends here lift me up. They will do the same for you.
You are in a new country. How AWESOME is that. Get out there man and explore. You just might have a good time and it will help you heal.
Prepare for the emotional rollercoaster from hell! We are on it together and sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down.
Figure out who YOU are. Are you weak? Do you see yourself this way.
Sounds to me like you have a pretty good outline of what you need to do. The single hardest thing I have done is attempt to detach and have no expectations; I stink at both although I think I am getting better at detaching.
If you have the blue print then it is up to you to correct it. I am the opposite. My W wanted a teddy bear and she got an A$$hole or as you so politely put it a lion. Now I am trying to soften up but it is all baby steps. The important thing is I am softening up because I realize I need to, has nothing to do with her.
I know it stinks right now and it is hard to figure out how you will get through tomorrow but hey today was the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
Get out there and live it up and you will be in a better frame of mind when W does decide to call.
