Went to first couple's therapy session last night. Very positive. Spent first part paying attention to co-parenting our son. Later started diving into our future. Have not dug up the details of the affair at all.
She still does not want me to contact her parents even though she told me they were told everything. They made the three hour drive down and grilled her pretty good for 24 hours before returning home. She is very close to her parents but feels that if I call them, it would allow for them to support my side and not her leaving her alone. I just want to contact them to make sure they know the whole story and that I am still in love with their daughter and will work towards a positive outcome for us and our son. Wife wants to keep it between us. I am surprised the parents have not called me yet, as they truly love me and how I take care of their daughter and our son.
Everybody (including a few therapists) have been telling me how mature and admirable I have been handling this. I am acting off my character and showing great patience and compassion. My father thinks I am in denial, naive, and have my head up my arse for not seeing the facts. He is also fighting longtime depression and has had an affair of his own. I just worry that all of my attention towards my wife and staying positive will not allow me to really grieve and have an angry period. I sometimes wonder if my wife is using the sexual orientation bit as a smokescreen to lessen the impact of the affair.
