I've been thinking about the $ impact of the D and it's gonna put a real strain on the whole fam.
So I'm again torn about forcing W out because of the impact on the kids: emotional and financial.
I'm thinkin you should take a closer look at this...
Most of the time, when conflicting thoughts are surrounding us...
We tend to look for a crutch to lean on. Something, mostly any lame excuse to not do what is best for ourselves. That fear of the unknown can be paralyzing. And we grasp onto something "known" or what we are used to knowing , so that we don't stare down that barrel....
Originally Posted By: InAPickle
What this all boils down to is fear:
fear of having to make ends meet with roughly only half the income, fear of what W's lifestyle will be like when she's D and home, fear of sending the wrong message to everyone about putting up with EA.
It seems as if any way you look at the sitch we all lose. I already put my foot down, so backing down because of $ for the kids would make me "meltyman" and also full of resentment. Looks like I am answering my own question here.
Yes, it seems you did answer your own question.
If you really look at it...
How much different would you be reacting if she left on her own and you were forced to handle these things on your own ?
Try to remove what her life may or may not look like. Stay inside your own head with these decisions.
I would imagine that you would go into "panic" mode until you formulated a plan. Then things would settle down a bit and you could take a step without that fear.
Originally Posted By: InAPickle
It ucksays to be poor. Because of the precedure I had today and my health insurance deductible, another $1600 has just been added to our combined debt. Add both our atty retainers $2500 + 3500 and you get W's urge to want out of the M costing us all a small fortune.
