[quote=W “They learned to respect each other and listen to each other they weren’t mean. Everything I did was wrong to you with D then you throw in your mother. I have to learn from this so I don’t allow anyone to ever treat me this way again. You think we can make it work; but you have to realize that that I don’t. I can’t go back to feeling that way again. I can’t allow you to treat me that way again. I could never allow D to be hurt that way again. We even have different values on how to raise D” [/quote]
2Step: wow, that's 90% verbatim of what my wife is just said today. I guess the only brightspot being that we dont have conflicts on how to raise our D (thats because i just gave in and did not fight with my wife on it)
It's my D B-day today. So W picks up the phone and starts venting on how i screwed up things. I start to panic in mind but still keep a calm voice on the phone. I just listened to her vent. Then i feel like cr#p that might be i should have done things differently and might be the M would have survived. But later on i feel that this is how my W is. She always told me that i was the main reason why the M was not working. So finally i just had to accept no matter what, i gotta man up and work on myself to just become a stronger person at-least...
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...