hi zen....i agree with what you wrote verysad (i don't want to call you that......) i was here before as well, last year i also did not keep the changes going, but remember, you are not alone to blame this is a two way street, and his actions may have adjusted your responses to him my husband asks "why should we try again" and tells me that "this time he is determined to see this (divorce) through) my husband is actually out of the house so you actually have a lot going for you he is still there and can see the day to day changes that you make so, yes, go on as normal be cheerful, don't talk about the relationship and be the best you, you can be let him see the girl he fell in love with
