Quote: I probably should have been a real bitch and made him earn his way back...
That's what Keep says to do. I struggle with that too. LBS just wants WAS HOME, ASAP. We should not make it too easy for them. Now that your H is home.
You are at the end of your rope, so how about some boundaries. What do you have to lose??? Why don't you get intouch with KEEP and or others and make and set your boundaries.
I have not gotten to that stage yet, but I bet Keep and/or others could help with that!