Pretty sure that my H is having a MLC. I think we are in the early stages of the Replay stage. I was hoping that he was just grieving really hard for his dad, but after this last year, I am not so sure.
Some of the changes in the last year:
He’s shaved his head for 10 years bc “hair is overrated” then grows it out. He knows that I don’t like it, but doesn’t seem to care. Buys an $80K Corvette Starts listening to rap and hip/hop Everything is my fault Feels like he has no say in his life Hates his job Has become very rigid Has distorted memories Sleeps all the time
Since New Years thing have quieted down significantly. He seems to be in a better place. Still sleeping a bunch and seems to be depressed. Also, I think that he reads into everyone’s motives. I am probably not wording this correctly. He thinks that everyone has a sneaky reason for doing things. This isn’t like him.
As for me, I have read through all the MLC resources and Cadet’s ultra brand new and improved links. I have to be honest and say that what I am learning makes my blood run cold. For the last year I have been so focused on trying to figure out what was wrong with him, that I have lost myself to some degree. I think for now, I am going to focus on my business and my kids. I need to let him be. I struggle with not being able to talk to him about us. I had always thought our marriage was a place where I was free to be myself. I have to get back to that. I have been so busy trying to fix his list of complaints that I haven’t taken care of me.
