I have done everything wrong....

[Grocerykartman]

I think you just dignify the bad situation even more by having any contact with OM. If the OM had any conscience to begin with, he wouldn't be shacking up with a married woman. You most likely won't get through to him, and in some cases, like in mine, that just delighted him more. I confronted the homewrecker one time, didn't get out all the things I wanted to say, and feel like an idiot to this day for even demeaning myself to that level. That's what speaking to him does, takes you down to his level.

I might caution you too about getting too far involved with the MIL and FIL in any kind of quest to end this affair/situation. Let's say at some point she reconsiders things...she might want to, but then she's got the daunting task of facing you and FIL and MIL, all against her greatly. Would you be up for that challenge if the situation were reversed? I'm not saying break all contact by any means. But I am saying you probably need to let this whole topic go as far as they're concerned. You know what's going on with your W, no realy mystery at this point. And its not like she is shamed because the MIL and FIL know either, because she's still with OM. Use the time you are spending discussing the situation with them to keep on working on the GAL. My 2 cents.

Hope you are doing ok.