Need Insight V

[ScaredinCanada]

No real idea Pickle, but I just wanted to say that I don't think you should allow money to be a "major" factor in these decisions because ultimately I think you won't necessarily make the best decisions if you put too much focus on the money.

To be honest I wouldn't I really even thought about it, except that the last R talk I had with my W, she said she's really struggling with her "decision" because she's worried about if/how she will be able to afford to go it on her own.

I guess when she spoke to her sister, that is the biggest concern her sister had...all this makes me worry that more she worries about her lifestyle the less she will be worried about "taking" more from me.

She originally said this was her choice, so she didn't think it was fair that I would lose out financially. So she wouldn't ask for the full child support amount (because she believed it was too much, approx. $1650 a month) and ailmoney because again she doesn't want me to "support her". Once the reality of the whole sitch hits her, she may change her mind in order to maintain her lifestyle at my cost.

My point in all this though, is that you and your W (as much as possible) need to be as clear as possible on the decisons you make, being sure that you are doing what YOU truly believe is right regardless of the money involved.