I'm home today, groggy from anesthesia. Had a routine colonoscopy this AM: my reward for turning 50.
Anywhoo, I've been thinking about the $ impact of the D and it's gonna put a real strain on the whole fam.
So I'm again torn about forcing W out because of the impact on the kids: emotional and financial.
But letting W stay in the home while she conducts her long dist. EA. sends what kind of message to the kids? Of course I have not exposed, so is it moot? (my close friends know though)
What this all boils down to is fear:
fear of having to make ends meet with roughly only half the income, fear of what W's lifestyle will be like when she's D and home, fear of sending the wrong message to everyone about putting up with EA.
It seems as if any way you look at the sitch we all lose. I already put my foot down, so backing down because of $ for the kids would make me "meltyman" and also full of resentment. Looks like I am answering my own question here.
It ucksays to be poor. Because of the precedure I had today and my health insurance deductible, another $1600 has just been added to our combined debt. Add both our atty retainers $2500 + 3500 and you get W's urge to want out of the M costing us all a small fortune.
Anybody got any ideas?
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
