3rd time he wants to leave. What should I do?

[Serenity13]

Broken~

I didn't think I would respond on the board anymore, however came upon your post and felt the need to do so.

I then wrote him an email to tell him that "He is free" and asked him not to contact me if he wants to express his feelings about the whole situation.

Don't do this again... You aren't his "keeper" and he doesn't need permission to be "set free" ~ You did it to get a response from him and then turned around and told him not to contact you.

We decided to stay together and work on our relationship.

How did you work on this the first time? Did you see a MC? Did you continue to use the tools necessary to make your marriage stronger or were old habits allowed to creep back in?

happier without him, he's not happy with our sex life, and he got married too young, and he wanted to be single.

Projection... It is a load of bull and his way of justifying what he is doing.

For being married, you both seem to be doing an awful lot of "living apart" and I don't think that bodes well for anyone.

A marriage is based on 2 people, living together, working on the marriage together, not living apart because of a job...

Sacrifices should be made if there is this much conflict living apart.

I don't even know what else I can do for him to make him happy

Not. A. Thing.

It isn't your job to "make him happy" and I will tell you this, the more you try, the more you will fail because nothing you do is going to make him happy right now. In his mind you are the enemy, you and your marriage are the ones standing in his way of happiness.

if he thinks leaving me is the only way to be happy

Then let him go, let him see what life is like out there without you.

I don't know what I should do: make up or break up?

Breathe...

Nothing has to be decided at this moment in time. Get your bearings together...

Read around here, post if you need be (especially if you want to email him again about being free), take care of you right now and let him worry about himself.

(((Hugs)))