Chapter 3 the end? Or new beginning?

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It's crazy how much your wife sounds like mine. I think when she asked if you had expectations she was testing you. Maybe she wanted an excuse to get out of the call but you didn't give her one. My wife said the same exact things... I want to go to Jamaica and all she wants to do is go see family in Texas.

In her mind everything good has to be explained in a negative way (in my opinion.) So good memories get spun into "he wouldn't let me do what I really wanted to do..." Now they don't have to deal with the good times that they had. My wife had a laundry list of things that she thought separated us from our taste in music (which is actually very similar for the most part) to our levels of risk aversion in life in general lol.

I think that your wife was testing you again. I know mine was doing this now that I look back. Before we separated she was always worried about sending "mixed signals".. she didn't want to show any affection towards me and when she did it was sincere and made her feel that much more confused.

I have done everything to speed up this process so that she can understand that the choice is hers. She says that she isn't stalling to think but our divorce could have been final two months ago. I'm sure that a big part is the attorney wanting to eat up the retainer and with me not fighting anything she is having to get creative in ways to bill my wife but either way I don't think my wife wants to deal with the finality of it. At one point she said she "just wants to get a divorce and move on." Earlier she had texted my sister and I and said "I just want the pain to end for everyone." Both of our wives will have to realize that signing the papers won't do anything to resolve the pain but I'm convinced that my wife has to go through the process to see for herself.

I wish that I could get my wife to start reaching out to me but that hasn't happened yet. I'm so ready to try and bust out my new skills dealing with her lol. Oh well, more time just means more studying for me!