Hold up. I'm confused. I thought the whole goal of this website was to "bust" a divorce?
Of course that is the goal and the techniques taught here give the best shot at bringing a M back together.
When we first get here that is our only goal.
Some people will reconcile and begin the harder part of piecing their M back together.
I would venture to say for me if my W came back to me early in this process I would not be the person I am today.
Likely I would have fell back to my old ways of viewing M, love and life. And likely not a better M.
It is quite ironic really that choosing to face this tragedy in spite of the choices your spouse makes, really helps you find compassion, understanding and love...and makes you a better person for your spouse or anyone you decide to share your life with.
At least for me, the opportunity to learn what that means for me.
It is, in the end, the only thing YOU control.
You can choose to be bitter because someone chose something you didn't want or
NOT.
It is all up to you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
