I know this is hard on you; and you've been in my thoughts and prayers.
I realize you're also doing the best you can with the hand you've been dealt...it's NOT easy to find out your husband is not finished with the crisis..and that brings on fears of its own that must be overcome by you before you can get back to the basics once again, standing firm on the belief that God has everything in control.
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I am giving him space. No R talk, no ILY. I am acting like myself and doing things that need to be done. What am I missing, it has been a while.....
So far, you're still trying to adjust to the shock; and you're deeply worried about what might happen going forward.
Don't worry so much; things will be ok regardless of what happens in the future; there's nothing you can do for him; again, you didn't break him, neither can you fix him.
You will bounce back once again; finding your way more easily, than the first time.
In the meantime; get your focus OFF what he's doing; and simply get on with your life, keeping your boundaries firm, NO "R" talks or pushing him; get back to that point, you were there, before and you will get there again.
You do know the drill; let him go, let God work on him, get on with your life...in the meantime, keep us posted on what goes on; and whatever you do; don't confront him or tell him what you're seeing.
I know you're NOT doing this; but no snooping, either to find out what he's doing; does no good, and adds to your stress.
I sincerely believe he will come to you when it is time, and not before...he must finish this on his own...and you have to allow him the space and time to come through.
(((((((Yellow Rose))))))
Much love to you, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
