Less Scared and Less Alone

[FellOnBlackDays]

Lost,
Just now getting a chance to respond to your response to my last post. Boy, that was a mouthful...

Anyway, I really want to comment on his attitude about C's. I used to be him!!! For two years, my W begged me to go see a C and I refused. I would say, "I don't need to pay some stranger to tell me how to love my W!" Eventually, my W had to use the threat of leaving to get me to go. By the time we stopped going, I was in love with the sessions and my W wanted to stop. Funny how life works. Back then I thought I had all the answers. You would have never caught me dead on a forum like this. But, I guess life has proven I don't know sh*t about shinola, because now my W is gone and I am devastated. More importantly, I continued to see the C after she left because it gave me a place to vent other than using my family. I know you can't push him into seeing a C, but he is a damned fool if he doesn't go. If insurance will cover it and you don't go in a situation like this, you are in some serious denial. Take this from a dude who once called counselors "piece of crap losers who couldn't make it in medical school." Go figure...

I am sorry to hear that you are alone while in this sitch. I would say that would make it doubly hard. But, you can make new friends. Hey, over the past month, I have walked up to four perfect strangers in the gym who I see there on a regular basis while I am working out. I introduced myself, asked them some questions about the gym, kept the conversation short and walked away. I now have two new friends in the gym that I can at least have five minutes of conversation with each time I see them. One guy is single and could turn into a new buddy for hanging out during weekends. Give it a try. You won't regret it!

By the way, having your brothers kick your H's ass probably won't make things better! HA!

Hang in there, girl! BITS never walk alone!

FOBD