wife planning long term separation

[FellOnBlackDays]

Shaves, TJ is spot on. Things seemed to change dramatically between my W and I once I stopped crying in front of her and started acting like a man again. And don't make the same mistake that most of us make. Acting like a man doesn't mean taking control of her and telling her what to do. I want to you try to take control of the situation through your own actions. I know there is still alot of doubt and desperation in my personal post, but I can attest doing this will work for you.

In the early stages, my W realized that she could inflict maximum damage while I was down on my knees. And, believe me, she did it every chance she could. She was just freaking mean. There is no other way to describe it. She tap danced on my soul for weeks. So, I went dark for two months. When I emerged from the "darkness," I acted completely different around her. Once I started controlling myself, my temper and my attitude with her, she couldn't get me to fight any more or lose my cool. This shot her whole game plan to hell in about two seconds. Don't raise your voice, don't take the bait to fight and don't take the abuse. I am telling you, it works.

I was the new DB'ing me and it still confuses her today. Now, when we talk it is like we are old friends. She apologizes for her actions when they are out of line. And I didn't have to curse, raise my voice or belittle her to bring about this change. I just did exactly what TJ described above. Try it and let us know how it works.

In the meantime, keep in mind, if she leaves it is not the end. It is not. It will be awful. Many of us here can tell you word for word how awful it will be. But you will get through it. We promise!!!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD