Denver, keep remembering the positive. If your W is anything like mine, she is doing all that she can right now. If you expect anymore, she'll think that whatever she does isn't good enough.
Mine said that!
So learn from that and take what you can and really enjoy that
I think you're doing awesome. Come to these boards to vent (as I did today). It will do you so much better.
Stay strong!!!
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE