I promise you with all of my heart, I'm not BSing you. It's not my style. I know I tend to be the cheerleader here. I guess it's because most of us already know where we screwed up. When we aren't sure, there are definitely people here who will make sure that we understand. That is just so important. Those people will get us to our goal. But, we need encouragement. We must have that to survive. We need people to tell us that we are worth something. I just cannot begin to tell you the respect I have for all of you that show up here. It humbles me everyday to see all the interactions and how hard people are trying.
Unfortunately, there has already been a member here who I basically told to walk away. It's against so much that I believe in, but that was a pretty extreme situation. So, I do call it as I see it. Do not worry about that
Please do not worry about not posting, ok? We cannot put that kind of pressure on ourselves. We are trying our best to get through our own situations.
Ok, OM... listen, so many of us are wavering between attachment and detachment. It's a hard line to keep. So, I think your feelings are very normal. My brother and I were talking about the OW in my situation. He told me that if he was seeing OW that would make him feel better because it would explain behavior and that is a more changeable situation. He said that if there wasn't, it doesn't mean it's the end, but it would bother him more because it would indicate more resolve on his part to carry through with his decision to leave. It was an interesting way to look at things.
