I really wasn't posting very much until you asked me to come by and check out RandyH. In the course of doing so, I came by your thread. I came because I know you and I like you. The more I read, the more I have seen things that others and I have gone through.
Here is what I see, LL. I see a woman who is having difficulty. Everything she says intimates that the situation will not get better. You have tried the soft touch to no avail. You have tried nagging until you are blue in the face to no avail. Someone makes a suggestions and you say you have tried it to no avail. Basically, you have tried everything. Is there anything that you haven't you tried?
I came to your thread and have stayed because I see someone who is hurting and is searching for help and direction. I have been in that place before and have done it my way. Perhaps you need to do it your way too. But I am trying to help you and I do it provocatively at times. LL, I don't want to see you wake up one morning and walkaway. In my case, my ex saw me changing and either didn't want to believe or was afraid that I actually might change and she would be stuck with feelings that didn't change. You are taking the course of doing the same thing over and over agian and it gets you nowhere. Don't let your life pass you by.
