Seriously, what exactly do you want? I want what I have asked for, I want that man that came home, that man that was exited to see me, that man that wanted to be near me, that wanted to spend time with me, that man that couldn't sit on the couch with me without wanting to give me a massage, that man that wouldn't let me leave without giving me a passionate kiss that said "I'll miss you while you're not here" I want one night a week set asside for us to spend time together doing something interactive and fun be it talking or playing a game of darts or cards or whatever maybe going out but not neccessarily....is that so much to ask? You have already determined that the marriage is a no go, or at least it sure seems that way. yes it seems that way but I'm not certain....there are still crumbs being offered...when the crumbs stop that's when the m will stop in one sense or another but the hope is that the crumbs will become more of a loaf or at least a couple of slices. What do you have to lose by putting out the ultimatum - change or it's over? the possibility of natural change occuring? ulitimatums don't work for me imp, I don't yet have the cahona's to follow through...there's still a glimmer of hope I hold and I can't give a true ultimatum til that glimmer is gone.
