Chapter 3 the end? Or new beginning?

[MichelleLT]

Mail them back. You said you would, so do it. It's not the be all and end all of anything. If anything, most R happen after the D papers have been filed, not before. The WAS often has to push that far before they allow themselves to slow down and let the reality of what is happening really sink in.

Very cool about her still wanting to go through with the convo with the DB coach on Thursday! Yeah, definitely let her decide how that goes.

The last resort technique says no pursuit, minimal contact, etc. But the most basic DB principle is do more of what works and less of what doesn't. You know your spouse better than anyone here, so you are the best at predicting her responses and what will work. You don't always have to toe the hard line of the LRT, but remember the Michele included it in her books for a reason: it really does work. How you customize that to your situation is up to you and your DB coach.