WAW tearing up our family

[ironMan]

She brings it up from time to time.

I am firm with my boundaries "Sorry, I just bought that a year ago ... you can take the things you bought".

I don't bring it up and I don't push .. but I am tempted. Once in awhile I may say "let me know when you're moving so I can help"

But, I Really do make her figure all of the details out.

Like your H, my W really hadn't thought things thru. Even though my W is an accomplished person ... she's an adolescent right now. And that's really how she's living. I don't understand it. But yeah, they don't think things thru. They stage a big fight/discussion with us so they can tell us how they're going to do this and that. But, they don't really know how to do that. Reminds me of when I "ran away from home" when I was a little kid. I just hung out in the dog house for a few hours, and when my parents didn't come looking for me I went back inside.

And I think this is part of them having to grow into real adults instead of the children they currently are. I let her fail on her own ... just as I would a teenager. And I giggle inside. "Of course you can't afford to live in that part of town, stupid. Sure is good to have a H that makes a good living isn't it? Go on ... go see how great this life on your own is" I say to her inside my head.

Any signs of your H actually getting ready to move?