A slow turn

[ironMan]

Bolt .... I think it is a GOOD thing that you are questioning if you want to wait for her. You don't have to. Either you choose to or not.

And, let's imagine for a second that you ask for some affection and she complies. Well, she did that because you asked. Is that the kind of love you want? Do you want a M where your W begrudgingly embraces you and begrudgingly ML to you? I don't know about you ... but I had that and I never want that R back. I'm better than that.

Instead, I want a W who wants me .. not tolerates me. And, I think we all deserve that. So, if your W is ever going to get to the point where she WANTS you ... and WANTS to be with you ... she has to get there on her own. And the only way that seems possible to me is for her to have the space to come to that conclusion on her own. If you ask her for it, or she does it to be nice, or whatever ... seems like you'll be back in the same situation before long. As grr said.

So, let her go. Let her find her own path. Hopefully she finds it back to you, but you can't control IF that happens or WHEN. And if she does, great. But the only way to get what you want is to just let her come to you under her own volition and on her time table. [censored] eh? We can't control ANY of this. But, we can control what we do to pass the time while they're fumbling around trying to find out who they are and who they want to be.