WAW tearing up our family

[ironMan]

LIS,
GOOd for you! That's awesome! That is a wonderful thing to come out of a crappy situation.

I have been in fairly good shape for years now and lift every day. I discovered lifting years ago back when I was nuts and I got a personal trainer and totally changed my physique .... lifting is necessary for me to keep my head in a good place. Great job on doing that for yourself. There isn't a better gift to give yourself. Don't you just feel SOOOO much better when you are taking care of your body?

So, I'm spending more time at the gym again than I have since the baby came. I always felt bad about leaving W with the baby. Now, I don't feel bad so I stay as long as I want. Gives me a good reason not to be around at night after baby goes to bed too.

I've also been playing basketball every Sunday ... and working on the house on the weekends. Just staying busy really makes me feel good. I have also been taking more time to hang out with my buddies. And listen to them. Listen to what their problems in life are. My best friend growing up .... well ... 3 years ago when his baby was 6 months old .... his wife decided she needed to go "live for her" ... which apparently meant doing drugs and being a sl*t. So, needless to say ... he's divorced now. And really talking to him is helping me.

I have already informed my W that my time with the baby will coincide with my friend's time with his kids so that he and I can hang out together.