though I value your in-put I don't think you understand...I do stay for the kids at least for now..because if I were to leave h (as he wont leave the house and is pretty damn clear about that stament "I'm not going anywhere, if you can find a better place to go then go" nice huh? nice way to show your w that you really do give a crap about her) right now I don't work, I am home with the kids...my leaving or forcing him to leave would not only force the kids to deal with one of their parents not being here it would also mean day care and mommy at work and a whole new life for them..not really the life I want for them...then again neither is this one but I do hope for a more positive change than what seems to be the path.
you are right h did convince himself that nothing would change...but the real kicker is it wasn't LL that he needed to have change it was himself...his words...upon my trying to explain how it hurts me to be blamed for his having an a and leaving...it wasn't me..it was th stress of building a home and having kids.
ah so you see..LL didn't ever really stop her journey toward being a waw...she's just shut up and made alot of exuses with the help of db.
will h ever change??? probably not..will I ever just accept things the way they are? probably not. SO that's that I guess...I am making no plans I am keeping no track record on h's actions or inactions...I am however paying attention to the actual relationship and how I feel in it and if I don't feel like I have a friend or lover in the r then how can h?
it is impossible for me to believe that h just isn't the r type...unless of course his time with ow was simply spent shaggin (and he denies any sexual contact with her ever took place) it would seem to make sense that he is capable of showing someone that he cares...and that person just isn't me no matter what package I put it in or how many bows I try to decorate with.
