bolt, i know how hard this is, but remember how much harder it all was before you got to this point here's a thought: last year when my husband changed his mind about leaving, we leapt right back into our situation i wish we had taken it slowly, like you are doing if we had, it may have placed us somewhere different now i don't know just take a few deep breaths and keep venting here don't let her see your impatience tomorrow will be different and yes, it is worth it