Help!

[MrBond]

SNL,

First off, I would suggest you change your name. If you call yourself something depressing like that, you will become something depressing.

You are fighting for your marriage, so that makes you the strong one.

Now, what you need to do is to stop saying that you are doing this for him, and that you can't tell him what to do, etc. That's just you saying it back to yourself. He knows he can do whatever he wants to. And ESPECIALLY, STOP telling him that you aren't going to see anyone. You're only saying that hoping that he will see your sense of morals, etc. but right now he's at the stage where he could care less.

Start doing what you want to do in the way you want to do things, irregardless of whether or not you are afraid of offending him or getting him mad. That's what it comes down to.

STOP BEING AFRAID!

You want to go out and enjoy life, go ahead. Detach your feelings from his mood swings. That's the first key to DB.

He's on the emotional rollercoaster right now. But you have the choice to get off of it and let him ride it on his own. He will try to pull you back on by pushing your buttons. It's obvious he's already at that stage.

Think of it like a little boy who can't get what he wants. He's going to do whatever it takes to see that he still has your attention, yet all the while, he's going to be out looking for something better (in his eyes) to come along.

Start acting and being strong now if you want him to start turning the corner. You have to start doing something different.

Be smart. Be brave. Be you.