When life hands you lemons add alcohol and stir!

[MichelleLT]

Sweetie, this place is all about the whine. And the wine.

You got him nice stuff for Christmas, so even if he gets you something for V-day it just makes you even. So do whatever you want to do about presents.

But quit assuming cuz he hasn't gotten you presents means he doesn't care. You said yourself he's not much of a gift giver, never really has been.

But if gifts are important to you, then you need to bring it up to him in a non-threatening way. You need to ask for what you want. Gifts? Flowers? Hand holding? More conversation? What would be one/two things that would really make you feel better about the whole situation?

His actions are showing he is "there." Taking care of you when you were sick, being there for you and Marc from what you've said. Has he said or done something in particular that makes you concerned about the future of your R?

Everyone shows their care differently. And everyone feels cared for differently. That's the whole point of the five love languages and such. It could just be that you two are hitting two completely different languages, and not that anything is truly lacking.

I also think he is getting complacent with the whole thing. You haven't really asked for anything from him because of your fear that he would leave again. But at some point you need to face that and ask for what you need whether it's an apology, an ILY, more gifts, flowers, whatever it is.

Maybe your deepest fears are right. Maybe he really would rather leave again than swallow his pride and guilt and apologize or admit out loud he wants to be with you. But you know you can make it on your own. You KNOW you can because you've done it. So it's not the end of the world.

So at some point, you need to chase your dreams. Ask for a R that would be more fulfilling to you. Make changes to pursue that.

But first, take care of yourself. Get some sleep. Rest up for Sunday!!!