I see too where LL is setting herself up to be a WAW and that's okay I guess if that's what is BEST for her emotionally. After all, isn't that exactly what her H did? Didn't he build a list of excuses for his misery and pain in the M before he trodded off into the sunset with an OW. Didn't he remind himself everyday how unhappy he was, how he knew SHE'D never change, how THEIR M would never be better.
Well, that's where LL seems to be headed. Reminding herself that it's useless, that nothing works, nothing changes. LL is building HER case against HIM and their continued R.
We CAN convince ourselves that our life with someone is poison for our well being...that's exactly what our cheating spouses do as they begin stepping over the line into thier fantasy life.
As for staying for the 'sake of our children'...that's what cheating spouses tell themselves they're doing when they are betraying us but still coming home after they've left their lover to slip into OUR beds.
It's not about the kids though is it, because our kids feel the fall out from the unhappiness of their parents. So the kids aren't being fooled into thinking their mom and dad are okay....we're kidding ourselves and it's a cowardly way to act to stay because WE FEAR the 'unknown'
M isn't a prison sentence it's a choice. We either CHOOSE to stay and make it better, or we CHOOSE to go and make life better for ourselves. It's really JUST that simple. T2
