My wife is also very stubborn. Once she takes a certain position, it is not likely that she is going to move from it. I have seen this in the past re her work and family interactions.
I see it as being a real impediment on her side with respect to trying to revisit the marriage. It is certainly out of my control, but is still a factor that I have to consider. I will have to tough this out for a prolonged period of time if I am going to have any change of saving the M.
I also wonder how much longer I can keep up the desire to want to be with my wife. Waking up every morning knowing that the most important person in your life wants nothing to do with you is pretty tough. I have been doing this for 15 months now and if it wasn't for my kids I would have pulled the plug along time ago.
After the Bomb wa dropped, I gave myself an 18 month window in terms of trying to save the marriage. Will see where the next 3 months take me. In the end, like you, I will be a better person than the one I was 18 months previous. For that, we can hold our heads high.
