online dating tips #4

[sandycay]

I have/had the same problem with the younger men too. Going out with friends the only men that talked to me are in the 25-33 yr old range... and on match... men my age (44ish) had they were looking to date women from 22 on up... I discarded them because they aren't looking for anything healthy. So many men my age wanted to start a family or wanted young women which tell me they are either in mid life crisis or are not looking for a relationship. Plus these men are sleeping with current 20 somethings and although I am in good shape, I am not 20 something. I don't need that pressure!

The younger men on there were always emailing me and pleading their cases as well. I equate it to this... when i was younger in my 20's and I saw a woman my age out at a bar... and a young man was talking to her... I knew he was doing it because they see "an easy lay" and would make fun of her when they came back to the group. They said divorced women of that age were vunerable because of what they had been through and a few choice words and most of time she was a sure bet. That has just stuck with me through this process.

I am no fool and I know that although I look younger, I don't look like I am in my early 30's. It would seem fun but the after would not be fun. I would rather fling with someone in my age bracket... which I put at 5 years older to 5 years younger. I just didn't waste my time if it wasn't relationship material. Because I am not wanting a dinner/movie companion at the end of the day. I knew that if what I wasn't looking for wasn't there in a person after a date or two then I would move on.

I just wanted a healthy man in my life and not someone with unhealthy views on women.

Plus, now that I am 3 years free of the STD's that EXH knowingly exposed me to and it cost $300 of lab fees to find that out (per test)... I don't want to have to go pay that again because of a fling. I would make anyone that I am going to "be" with show me their lab new papers. I know it sounds drab but when you have been exposed it becomes real and scary. It's just not worth it ladies and gentlemen. Do you really want to have to tell all your potential mates if you didn't have to?

That's my two cents on the younger guy thing.