I missed your fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth and ninth points. Seriously, I am going to turn back on you what you tell me. Stop trying to figure her motives out. You know why? Her motives today can be completely different than tomorrow. What she thinks she wants today make be completely different than tomorrow. Today she might want a divorce, tomorrow not so much. The one thing I have learned clearly with the WAS's (even with us to tell you the truth) is that we need a ticker to keep up with the feelings, emotions and motives. They change by the second.
And do not compare yourself to anyone else here to gauge how you are doing. You need to work your program and run your race. No two situations are the same.
I'm glad you talked to DB coach. Gotta say you had me cracking up about the salesman pitch, though, that's too funny. All of us are looking for someone to validate them and give them hope. Hope can only come from within. These DB coaches are there to tell you what to do with that hope and how to channel our energy and how to give us the best chance to get our spouses back. The hope thing? That's your job. Probably one of the most difficult jobs we have right now... I know.
