Need Insight V

[InAPickle]

W actually spoke to me after I apologised for the fighting. Just a one/two word(s) kind of thing, but it beats silent treatment.
I said let's end the war of the roses stuff and do what's best for the kids.

I'll give her a day or so before offering any other olive branches. We have to go to a mandatory parenting class - together or not. She also needs my help to change her aol pw - gotta wait till she's way, way calmed down to do that.

I gave all the evidence of the A I had collected from my snooping to my atty. She said although "no fault" means you can get a D any time you want, it doesn't necessarily mean you discount infidelity altogether when it comes to settling terms and mediating. But atty said she will not bring it up (reveal) unless absolutely necessary. I have a couple of other cards to play if W changes her mind and gets more demanding, though I have a feeling she wants the kids to have their bedrooms, and they can only have that with me. Unless of course she ends the A in which case I'll gladly be her room mate.

I was reluctant to share this because I cannot tell if it's just my imagination and wishful thinking playing tricks on me. But a few nights ago whilst in the chapel praying, I felt God telling me that "ONLY out of the smoke of destruction will she be able to come out of the fog." I assume that meant the dissolution of our civil marriage (remember we're catholic) and the subsequent affect on her lifestyle and quality of life in general. BUt then again it could have been just my imagination.

Thanks for all the prayers.
BITS