second verse same as the first

[2stepboogie]

There is always hope . . . http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-12302146

You ARE making baby steps. How many people guessed she would pull back after both the long convo and the flowers? Well, she did. Give it a few days. You will have more chances.

Why do you stand for your vows? Is she worth it you asked? I don't know, only you do. But the real question is ARE YOU WORTH IT? You didn't make those promises just to her, you made vows to yourself. Are you worth so little that you aren't worth keeping your word??? Will you become the kind of man who breaks his promises "just" because the other person doesn't hold up their end when you want them to? Or the kind of person who always keeps their word and tries their best no matter what?

Michelle,

Thank you for that 2x4 I kind of needed it. I will stand. I will stand until I don't. She is worth it and so am I. My biggest problem has been to recognize the baby steps and appreciate them for what they are. I have a conversation like that and just want to say "Ok good. We are making progress now come home so we can continue" but I know it does not work that way. I have to stay focused! Keep taking my small victories as they come and hope for the best! Thank you very much for putting it back in perspective for me.

[2stepboogie]

I just read the thread!!! O-M-G!!! I'm sooooo happy for you I just let out a woo hoo from my office at work...got some looks LOL

GOD is working here my friend....I will be praying on Thursday at 9am for yall! Just becareful and keep on DBing...don't get to crazy excited like I would and make her run for the hills again!

I can hardly wait till your post on Thursday and how that call goes for yall! I've always wondered if I asked H to do that if he would.

By the way...Im glad I have yall to be in the fetal position with too! You have helped me soooo much and kept me going when I couldnt help myself!!!

dixie,

You are awesome!! It gives me such joy to know that so many people here are pulling for each other. It gives me the strengh to keep going when I just feel like giving up. Right now we need all the prayers we can get. ALL OF US. I hope you let out another woo hoo on thursday at 10:01AM.

To be honest with you sometimes I really do feel GOD is involved here. I feel it in my gut I can't explain it. I am not all that religous but it is a feeling I have.

[Redo]

2Step,

Just a question. Are you trying to delay the D using a A ?
My W filed for D on 1/3/11. This was when i was out of the country. Since we are in TX (no fault) and seeking mediation, I guess there's a 60 day window after which the D will be issued.

Iam breaking by head trying to figure out how to delay the D out. Talking to A looks like he's gonna eat up all our savings. Meanwhile I am also DBing (a little).

I am looking to see if any of you gurus dealt with this issue and how.

Thanks !

[2stepboogie]

I am not trying to delay the D and I am not getting an attorney. I will send the papers tomorrow and let the chips fall where they may

[zengypsy]

I am not trying to delay the D and I am not getting an attorney. I will send the papers tomorrow and let the chips fall where they may

2 - It's all you can do at the moment. If you fight the D, it's not showing her you've made the changes that you have. You are doing a FAB job my friend. I am very proud of you.

[2stepboogie]

One part of me says that this is a test to see if I have really made peace the way I have said to her. At that point she will get them and hold on to them until she decides what to do. That's the hope part

The other part of me says she intends on finishing up the process all together so she can move on.

[Denver_2010]

2Step,

Just a question. Are you trying to delay the D using a A ?
My W filed for D on 1/3/11. This was when i was out of the country. Since we are in TX (no fault) and seeking mediation, I guess there's a 60 day window after which the D will be issued.

Iam breaking by head trying to figure out how to delay the D out. Talking to A looks like he's gonna eat up all our savings. Meanwhile I am also DBing (a little).

I am looking to see if any of you gurus dealt with this issue and how.

Thanks !

Karma - I struggled with this decision too. My W has never actually filed for D or LS. When she was talking about it, I did tell her that I planned on getting an attorney if she filed "to make sure that we are both treated fairly".

I have also told her this:

“W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.

You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.

I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.

I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.”

My W has not brought the issue up in a month.

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Denver