denver thanks for your input i think that more than taking him for granted, i had certain expectations of the way things should be when he got off road for a few days and when they would not be the way i thought i would get distant i will say that he is a bit of a loner and needs his time to re-adjust to family life he also gets treated a certain way on the road and when he gets home, all of a sudden he is "normal joe" taking out the garbage and doing chores but i knew these things going in
i take work when he gets home because i am in a competitive business and if a director asks me to work with them and i say no too many times, i am afraid they will stop asking
i understand now that was not the right thing to do but being a woman in my field is scary at times
we also let our son sleep with us most every night
it started out of guilt, i think, because of our crazy schedule and it has not stopped even if he goes in his own bed, middle of night comes, he creeps into ours and one of us, usually me, will go to sleep in his room
