Chapter 3 the end? Or new beginning?

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2step, check out my sitch when you get a sec. I had the W who thought she missed out on something. I was very lucky in that she ended up going back home to OH (we live in CA) and she saw that the alternative was pretty bad.

You're right! She isn't 22 anymore. My W is nearly 40 and she saw that there were a bunch of single 40 year olds trolling. She was depressed and thought it pathetic. She came screaming back to me.

When you read my sitch, you'll see that I didn't follow the DB to a tee. I think you have to understand your sitch and your spouse. I knew when the right time to pursue and when not to. I was just like you when there were texts or convos.

BUT - If you do keep your convos short, there will be more of them. It's so odd why that happens but it does.

I will say that having her contact you is pretty big. Take solace in the fact that she thought about you and asked about your weekend.

One last thing kinda related to that. My C told me to treat expectations as if I was divorced. In other words, don't expect anything. If I was divorced, would my W contact me by text to ask how my day was? Would she touch my shoulder when she walked by?

If you treat them like gifts and not expectations, you'll be in a much better place. PLUS expectations almost ALWAYS let you down. We need everything we can to be up.

Stay strong!!!