I AM piecing... Now I need to stay on track...

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Hope, EXACTLY!!! We can all agree to work on our M. But a spouse that will not end an A is not only refusing to work on the M, they are damaging their S. Killing them slowly from the inside out. People often ask on this site,

"who were you when you met your S? Be that person."

The answer is that I was a man on integrity and respect. I was someone that would not tollerate a cheater let alone allow it to knowingly go on. That's who I was. And you know something? That's who I am!

BTW Hope, I have been reading your sitch too. You are on a roller coaster for sure. Keep working!!!


2step, thanks bud. I have seen all your progress. Don't stop the train buddy! This is difficult but worth it...


So odd the way thing shift back. I believe our WAS really want to be back with us. It's the fear that keeps them away. The goal is to show them that they no longer need to fear us. That our changes are real. At the same time (or soon after) they too need to understand their roll in the demise of the M. Otherwise we risk resenting our S. My W knows her mistakes. She knows that she needs to change too. And she knows that if she does not, she risks me leaving. She does not get another chance. She will never hurt me like that again. I will not tollerate it. If she does, then she will really get to enjoy her dream of being alone. And I am positive that her dream will turn into a nightmare that she will not be able to wake from. I am not being a harda$$ or cocky... My views about EA/PA have not changed from the beginning. I simply will not tollerate being cheated on EVER AGAIN!!!