Losing my motivation....need some advice quick...

[zengypsy]

Ok, I'm struggling today. Perhaps a lack of sleep due to the info my SIL told me that my H is making bad choices. I know i can't help him, no one can. He's going to haev to crash and burn much like an alcoholic. But I also can't help but worry about him and what these bad choices are. I just love him with all my heart so why wouldn't I worry?

I know it's not drugs because he as never even smoked pot. Then I think, did he get some girl pregnant? Did he move in with her and that's why he moved to NJ? Is he drinking more? I just don't know and I'm really scared for him. I know that Michele indicates in the MLC Chapter that MLC'ers are in an experimental stage and that it may include a relationship. The thought of that makes me physically ill. I still consider it cheating and I found this great quote today...."Cheating only shows the character of the cheater."

I'm at a crossroads. I wish I had asked my SIL at least how bad are these choices on a scale of 1-10. Maybe it's better I don't know as it would break my heart more and I would worry more.

I'm really missing my H today....

And one question....I know in the