I AM piecing... Now I need to stay on track...

[Sad_but_happy]

So it's been a while since I've posted and I have come a long way in the last 4 months. But the last two weeks have been just one giant step after another.

First, here is the link to my last thread:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2122084&page=1

Now for the update.

1/20 - Came home from business trip and things were fine. W and I had good discussions about my trip. Went to bed and everything was almost as if things were completely normal.

1/21 - W went over a GF house at night. I was slightly annoyed since I had not seen her in about 7 days. I didn't let W know I was annoyed. W came home at about 10:30 PM and we talked about her night. Was a good discussion. We had a few drinks and went to bed. Still spooning every night.

1/22 = W was out ALL day. She had to work in the morning and then went out with GF's till about 6pm. She called several times just to say hi. That night W asked if I wanted to watch a movie. So we watched until about 10pm. I dozed a few times on the chair. We both sat on the same chair real close and just enjoyed wine and the movie. At 10 W asked me if I wanted to take a bath, Ummmm, ya!!!! So we got out the champagne, lit he candles and in the tub we went. Stayed in the tub and talked for 2 hours. No R talks just fun stuff. Then it was bed time and for the first time in over 4 months we ML. Was very nice.

1/23 - So we wake up the next morning and I tell the W I'm going downstairs. Off I go to make some breakfast. W usually follows close behind. Not this time. So after about 20 minutes I go back up. Asked if she wanted anything and I could tell she wanted me to stay. Soooo let’s just say it was a very good morning. She was very attentive…

The rest of the week went great. I won’t go into details but I will say that we have ML 5 times in the past 8 days (including this morning). It’s actually almost back to normal. I am keeping my changes going so I don’t take things for granted.

I will say that the only thing that saved me was allowing my W time to figure her stuff out. I was very lucky. Believe it or not I registered for this 7 days BEFORE my W met OM. You see I was planning to be a WAS. I was tired of W’s crap. Tired of the stress. But then SHE turned it around. Luckily, I put DB’ing to practice and it worked out perfectly. Still not a done deal but we are light years from where we were. At one point, W was looking at apartments and telling me it’s over and that she doesn’t love me and that we are no longer a couple. Now just 4 months later things are so different.

Now I just need to stay on track. We still read books together, and spoon every night. I am still the aggressor when it comes to physical affection. There is much SHE still needs to work out. We have MC this Sunday and I will focus on changes we BOTH need to make. Each of us needs to feed the others LL in order for us to stay close. I have learned that relationships are very fragile. One needs to really pay attention to the needs of their spouse. I have been meeting her needs for months and she is finally starting to meet mine.

Right now I am a DB success. But I know that could all go away in the blink of an eye. I will post every now and then to update.

Thanks to all that helped me get through this. I still come here to read and learn every day. You are all wonderful people that have a difficult road ahead. Keep the faith. Know that you are all in the right by wanting to save your M.

I pray that everyone will find peace and happiness.