Ever heard the expression, "cut your nose off to spite your face"? These negative comments you've been making is hurting you more than her. If you want to save your M then you will have to be more attractive than the OM. What is she getting from him that she wasn't getting from you?
I know, you're right, but she took 1/2 our savings, pissed away thru 8k so far in less than 3 months while I work 70 plus hour a week. She now only has the girls 50% of the time and does what ever she wants during her free time. She should be looking for a job. One of the reasons she said she wanted to go back to school was so she could support herself and the girls and not depend on me. (She's been a sahm for last 5 years) So far, Im still supporting all of us, while she does what ever she wants with her free time, it completely pisses me off. And I paid for her school!
She doing with OM what her and I never took time to do, get out and have some fun. And Im sure he's telling her all the things she wants to hear. Without going into my entire story again, we've had a tough 5 years since the girls were born. But right now she's being completely irresponsible, selfish, and dishonest.
I will try to put my emotions in check from now on, its just not easy when the person I loved, trusted and was my best friend, I feel is completely screwing me and our girls over.
LIL - so far all of the exchange have been at my house, she still has lots of things here, and always has to come in and get a few things. She would actually come in and start a load of laundry, including some of my clothes, or wash some dishes, made me ice tea once, but I asked her to stopped doing things like that for me, that I could do them myself. Im not sure why she would do that, but I felt like I had to let her know I could handle those things on my own.
So far my W and I have been good at making sure whom ever has the girls, the other gets to talk to them at nite before bed. If we miss each other for some reason, she will call me, or I will call her. I always want the girls to be able to talk to their mother when ever they want, and my W does same for me. Both of us having equal time with the girls seems to be the one thing we agree on.
It just bother me that we have to split time with them at all, kids should have both their parents, not 1/2 and 1/2.
That really tough that your W make it difficult to talk to your kids when she has them, my W apt is literally 5 mins away and I would be knocking at her door if she played games like that with me.
Sandi2 is right tho, one of my problems is, and has been, I lead with my emotions, and it always backfires on me. Its something Ive been aware of now for 10 months, and still do it.
Me 44 H 39 Met in 1998 Married in 2004 D 5, twins Bomb - May 16th, 2010
"Don't let Tomorrow or Yesterday get in the way of Today"
