Also that she was frustrated because me had not often answering my phone has always been an issue for us. She is right. I always knew this bothered her but was foolish and ignored her when she would tell me how much it bothered her. I have realized this and have been trying hard to correct it. I texted her acknowledging that this had been a problem and reminded her that I now rarely miss a call. we shared a couple other nice textes about our D2 and then wished each other good night.
Do you see yourself as a button-pusher? I just wondered since you knew this type of behavior was very frustrating to her then why would you purposely continue doing it?
Anyway, you will learn that you cannot replace the wrongs "now" that you did in the past. You cannot successfully apologize now for what's already been done. Oh, you can try, but it will not carry weight with her. Those things will seem like you are smothering, or tail kissing, and it won't have the desired results.
This WAW who is in an affair--is different from the woman you M. What would have worked with her in the past...won't work now. B/c in her mind, she is done with you. She has her focus on another man now. She is caught up in a fantasy.
So, what are you willing to do to save your M? Without naming your W & D, what are the three most important things in your life?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
