sorry for the confusion...I meant option #4...and honestly rachael though there is hope for ME I don't see there is any hope for this marriage to change...it's a dynamic that has been at play for over a decade and it's only getting worse..of course in h's eyes things are better, that's simply because I don't bother to bring up half the crap that bothers me anymore cause I know it's a cheesless tunnel..thing is 99% of the issues in this m are a cheeseless tunnel...maybe I should have married a mouse.
I'm not imagining anything at all I'm simply making assumptions about what the facts mean.
fact.
h has been falling asleep on the couches almost every night this is something he started doing during his a.
assumption (and I'm not even going there just stating it) that h is again involved in some capacity with ow..or is simply distant on his own.
fact. h's shedule has not slowed down at all and in fact more often than not he ends up lying to me "us" by stating that he'll be home early and then plans change.
assumption that means he is avoiding us/me for some reason
fact h is distant or too occupied to play with the kids and is grumpy with short patience expecting them to act like mini adults
assumption he doesn't want to be here for whatever reason
I could go on and on but there really is no point to it...h is slowly becomming the same man he was during his a..thing is I'm not really giving too much of a crap about it anymore...he can make exuses for anything and I'm tired of the game.
You can all look at me and think...her h came home...she's just a naggin complaining bored little housewife with over 5000 posts...she's screwed up...look at how she rants and raves...but you have no freakin clue what it's like to be with this man. I'm tired of it..and you can all tell me to go get a life and do this or do that or make myself happy yada yada yada and all it does is let him off the hook..am I assuming that? NOPE..been with him for 15 years and I know...makes no difference where I am or who I am with...if I leave or if I stay...if I call or don't call...he's not husband material..gee wonder why his lover was a married woman??? cause a single gal would have dumped him years before.
