Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
It is like they don't want you and they don't want you to be happy either. Baffling isn't?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am so glad to see that some of the MLCers have a sort of awakening I have no word about my xh still, my timeline is about the same as yours and forwards, so Im hoping maybe he will "wake UP" and at least begin to talk to the kids again... Im not sure why they are surprized that we would eventually date again Maybe time stops for them and they expect everything to be the same..maybe they realize their mistakes when the paIN IS SO GREAT AND ESCApe isnt opional anymore I think as we have read in books and if we speak to MLC ers who pass thru the crises, some may honestly admit the mistake not sure if the xh would honestly admit it to wife ..But I have spoken to women who say their xh eventually tried to come back years later..usually too late please keep us posted... peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Yesterday I took the kids to an afternoon tea at a fancy hotel where I live. My daughter told ex about it and he told her that he had always wanted to be the first one to take me there and he regreted not having done so. I just thought that was interesting.
Ex next week is getting ready to take my kids on a cruise. This is his 33rd trip since our divorce......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Peace, I think your sitch is one of the most painful. I do hope that your X reaches out to your kids at least. I believe that kids carry that rejection with them.
Trusting, If he really wanted to be the first to take you there, then he would be, you know?
I think your X shows signs of maturity, but they are vague and not followed with action yet. I have had small flashes of maturity, but they are weak and not enough to make X attractive.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Hey all! I have been on and off here lately. Why? I really dont know. I guess some of your remember my divorce, esp snodderly. I came on this board and was Desperate to say the least. I never had my own identity, so when ex left and never looked back I freaked! I didnt think I could live. I asked questions here alot, usually the same questions over and over, trying to get someone to say what I WANTED to hear. Trying to get someone to promise me my ex would return. Well that was in 08 and my ex is now remarried *5 months after divorce* and has a new BABY! He married his 26 yr. old girlfriend. Ex STILL refuses to talk to me, our son, has really suffered from this divorce but I can NOT get ex to sit down or even talk about talking to our son together. I dont try to contact my ex and havent for a long time, but the last time i did he hung up as soon as he heard my voice. It's a shame he acts that way. Our son needs to know that his mom and dad DONT hate each other, even though his dad prb. does hate me. Ex stopped talking when new girlfriend entered picture and hasnt since. His new wife WILL NOT allow him to in my opinion. I just worry about our son, who will be 21, BUT his dad is a BIG influence on him. My son hasnt spoken to me in almost a yr. and a half. He went to live with his dad and slowly stopped speaking to me or having anything to do with me. It has been over 2 yrs. and the anger continues. When will it ever stop! Not ONE time did my ex look back since he left BUT I will say I was a bit shocked a couple weeks ago. Like I said, my ex doesnt talk to me BUT he came into my workplace about two weeks ago and while leaving the store inquired about where I was that day. ?????? Weird! Anyway didnt mean to hijack this thread but just wanted to comment. I did lose myself but slowly am starting to find out WHO I am again. Long time coming! Hugs to you all!
Thanks for updating us. I was wondering what happened to you. You sound strong. Sorry your ex is still weird, but the waking up can start with them inquiring about how we are doing. We are dead to them for the longest time, then all of a sudden they start to remember us in little bits and pieces.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Hi Renee I member both of us in here when our journey started...we were both hot messes......I member posting in a round about way the same questions as you......waiting for someone to tell me he was coming home.....I wanted that magic pill that would fix my husband..but all we could do was pray and ask God for his grace ..peace... and his mercy and he really has given that to us hasn't he.....
So many people in here hurting and wounded just like we were and are just not as wounded... Keep praying for your son, for him to find his way home...1st to the Lord and then to his momma.... love ya lots Irma
Ex, my children and OW are on their cruise. They are due back on the 3rd of February. I am praying for my children's safe return. This will be a very hard week for me.... Trying to stay busy.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
