I was always bummed during exchanges. She always had this smirk on her face, and I struggled dealing with someone who really could care or less if I fell off the face of the earth.
Lately, her or I just send the kids out of the house, and put whatever bag they have on the porch near the door....so no contact.
Yours are 5, and my oldest boy is 5, so this works....I just park in front of her house, and she parks in front of mine.
My hardest times are when we are out and the kids say they wish Mommy was here with us, or they ask why Mommy doesn't live at the house anymore. I just tell them we are working on it, and Daddy is doing his best.
This may put me in the minority, but I see nothing wrong with wondering what she is doing. It proves you still care about your family, and want to do what is right.
I got my boys a cell phone that is used just for contact...it is worth the $40/month to me.
If the mods allow, I can leave a little used email addy I have, and we can move it to my normal email after you contact....
Our sitches are so similar, we can probably really help each other.
I don't want to violate the board though...
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
