New to this community seeking advice 2

[MichelleLT]

You got to sit with her at the game! What more do you want?

I'm being facetious, but not really. You just moved to the state, you are seeing more of the family and more of her, and you sat with her at the game. THAT'S HUGE PROGRESS!

Don't sabotage it with a R talk!

Talk about the finances, try and pay some stuff off. Figure out your job and living situation for the long term.

Have you found a new job? How long does the severance have to last you? Those are things you need to figure out before you decide how much of it to give to her. It wouldn't be unreasonable to use the money to repair the car and keep giving her the monthly amount you have been. So don't feel obligated to just give her half or something just because. Do what's best for the kids.