I agree with SandyCay - if you talk for a long time before you meet, it is too easy to develop a pseudo-relationship and then find out when you meet that there is no attraction. Also I think it is too easy to fall prey to someone who just wants an online relationship, nothing more. I think we need to look at the online sites as just a way to get introduced to someone - then best to go straight to a coffee date.
It did occur to me, thinking about the 20-somethings and 50-somethings who make up the bulk of my contacts - those are the ages that aren't interested in having kids. Maybe that's why I look good to them! Also, I think for some of the 20-somethings, there is something forbidden or naughty about an older woman? It still astonishes me, though - I mean, I am an attractive woman and I do look a bit younger than my age - but jeez, I still have wrinkles and spider veins and 15 extra pounds. And these are very nice looking young guys who contact me - guys I would have dated when I was their age, for sure.
