Having a hard time... II

[Bolt]

...talk herself out of it.
Man, I was right there. I could literally SEE my W doing that. She would want to say something or even reach out to touch me and she would catch herself.

It's that wall that they put up. They've been hurt and don't quite believe the changes we're making are permanent. They want to believe (or they'd be gone) but they just can't handle being hurt again.

The only solution to that is to never go back to who you were. Keep doing those changes. She will slowly come back.

I really wouldn't push asking her to do things at this point. If she wants to, she will ask for sure. I know that seems like you don't care but on some levels you have to NOT care. It's so friggin hard because it is the opposite of what we want to do. Trust DBing though. It does work.