I've been around...mostly posting on a thread in the sexual issues forum and otherwise starting trouble with folks on the bb.
h called a bit ago...was supposed to be home @ 1 but now wont be home til @ 4...sounded dissapointed when he inquired if I had class tonight..don't get excited...it's simply because he's got some stuff to do outside and if I'm not here he will have to stop by 6:30 and be inside for the kiddos (dd wont go outside and goes to sleep by 7) I could walk into a dream world and fool myself into thinking he may have wanted me to be here to spend time with but I know what's real and what isn't.
h has been falling asleep on the couches for a few months now (something he did during his a) and rarely makes it up to bed in the middle of the night.
I haven't bothered to post much here cause there doesn't seem to be much of a point.
I pretty much annoy the crap out of anyone that does try to help.
I know the problems in my marriage are not unique...the thing that seems unique is that they began long before we were married so alot of the solutions people offer up just don't cut through the muck.
my m is what it is...I have a few choices...
1. accept it for what it is and do the best I can to keep myself happy and at all costs avoid complaining and/or having an a to get that intimacy I crave
2. try (yet again) to address the "issues" with h and hope that something changes
3. give up and be misserable
4. wait it out a while and make the best of it and then if nothing changes give up.
